Thursday, October 2, 2008

Is it just Me or do you know an Intimidator?

Oh, remember Dale Earnhardt, he was called the Intimidator and it wasn't a negative thing. But I wonder if that's really a good thing in real life?I looked up how to handle irritating people on the internet and you could spend days reading and even purchase systems to help you learn how to cope with them. Don't we all have them in our lives. Do you know if you are one?
My Mom used to say I tried to live life with rose-colored glasses on~is that such a bad thing?
I don't want to be an irritating person or intimidate others to have my way, because then I would never enjoy it. I would rather catch my bees with honey than vinegar. Sometimes I just get weary trying to deal with people. I get extremely mad when I find myself getting sucked in to being negative or going with the flow and being part of the problem not the solution. Tell me people, do you go through this?Are there difficult people in your life. Are they making life miserable for you. Let's name a few possibilities...Co-workers? Bosses? Clients?In-Laws? Spouse? Kids?Parents?Siblings? I even found this list of names to apply to them on the Internet... This is someone elses list.
Let me give you a brief description of these type of people. If you don't know how to handle them... they can really hold you back.
1. The Energy Thief.
2. The Self-Righteous @#&-hole.
3. The Criticizer.
4. The Staller- Mr. "Indecisive".
5. The Sherman Tank- He'll run you over.
6. The Know-It-All.
7. The "Think" They Know-It-All.
8. The Negative Whiner.
9. The Clam-Up Say-Nothing Type.
10. The "Too Agreeable" Type.
11. The Back-Stabbing Sniper.
12. The Instigator.
13. The Entrapper.
14. The Pulled-Pin Hand Grenade.
15. The Bullies.
16. The Bosses From Hell.
17. The Stubborn Do-Nothings.
18. The Fault-Finding Worthless Critic.
19. The Rude Screamers.
20. The Excuse Machine.
21. The Blabber Mouth.
Okay, I'm starting to feel better-there are names for these people and I don't want to find mine among it. Just venting is helping -knowing that others experience it helps. I want to choose to try my best to rise above it, so heres 22 ways to not find myself on that list...
Doing the right thing for the right reason.
Giving the gift of courtesy.
Rejoicing, not being resentful.
Showing true humility.
Encouraging others.
Keeping a long fuse.
Holding no grudges.
Drawn to the truth.
Always optimistic.
Willing to persevere.
Never letting others down.
You can’t live better than you can love.
Speak to people—There is nothing so nice as a cheerful word of greeting and/or encouragement.
Smile at people—It takes 72 muscles to frown, only 14 to smile.
Call people by name —The sweetest music to anyone’s ears is the sound of their own name.
Be friendly and helpful—If you would have a friend, be a friend.
Be cordial—Speak and act as if everything you do is a genuine pleasure.
Be genuinely interested in people—You can like most everybody if you try.
Be generous with praise—Cautious with criticism.
Be considerate with the feelings of others—There are usually three sides to a controversy; Yours, the other fellows and the right side.
Give of yourself—What counts most in life is what we do for others.
Keep a good sense of humor, a big dose of patience and a dash of humility—you will be rewarded many-fold.
If you stayed with me to the end of this post, you are a trooper. I feel better! I feel like I had a therapy session with a low cost.

As my Pastor says I want to live gratefully humbly not hateful grumbly!

Be blessed!


Valarie said...

Nope I know some intimidators. I hope I am not one, I read the list and didn't recognize that as being me, but sometimes I wonder if we do this to our own family members. Maybe I have been, I might need to work on this.

Brandi said...

Great Post! And yes I did notice me on that list, that is something I need to work on!

Life on the farm... said...

My husband's mother is all of those, and now I guess that makes me a "blabber mouth" doesn't it? Oh well, it's not a secret, I cope with it by giving it right back to her. It took me years to build up my nerve, and I hate that I have to be that way. Constantly on my guard, because I'm not built that way. I have prayed, screamed, and cried, she or they are the only 2 people that have ever really gotten to me, and it is such a shame things could have been so different. I am not ugly to her or disrespectful, but I let her know she is not going to manipulate me. She pretty much has moved on to other people. Such a wasted bond, if only she would stop and listen, and seek out God. Such a sad thing!But I was such a wimp, and by kids still say a push over, ( that 's how God made me) if I had not experienced what I have with her and my father in law, I probably would not be able to give my kids advice on how to handle these types of situations and people. I hand never ran into people like this especially people who were to be your "family". I love my husband dearly, and do not mean to disrespect him at all. He knows, and he understands. He keeps saying, girl I can't believe you stuck it out and stayed! So I guess I win huh?

It's All Good! said...

I would like to say that I've never been on the 'naughty' list, but I'm sure I probably have from time to time! I like your idea about concentrating on the good list. If we did, who would have time for the other one!
God bless,
Brenda :)

Putz said...

my best trait even though i have many weeknesses, is that i love all people and want the best for them...and love to see them do faults are my big mouth, my laziness, my bad temper, not being sypathic to my wife's want and needs, but i STILL LOVE people even though i fall often