Sunday, April 26, 2009

I just heard this term and needed to learn more…

I don’t know what rock I have been living under –but somehow just this week I saw the word frenemy on someone’s Facebook and I thought I must learn more.

Most often I am trying to look on the sunny side or be positive. I like to lift up not tear down.But I live in this imperfect world (for this time right now anyway) and I am a grown up -or at least I try to act like it most of the time. I realize and have experienced that everyone is not nice and everyone is not going to like me. I will even have people in my life from time to time who profess to be my friend when in reality they do not have my best interest at heart or even wish good for me. I found myself faced with this recently and I found this article to be helpful.

How to Deal with a Frenemy

By cadence, eHow Member

She looks nice, but is she a friend or frenemy? She looks nice, but is she a friend or frenemy? Dealing with a frenemy can be tough. A frenemy, which comes from the words friend and enemy, is a person who are you friendly with but does not have your best interests in mind. It's okay to maintain relationships with frenemies, but it's also important to preserve your own interests and needs when dealing with them.

Step 1-Be cordial. There's no reason to be mean. There is no problem keeping a frenemy as an acquaintance, as long as you aren't revealing secrets about yourself to your frenemy.

Step2 -A frenemy is likely talking about you behind your back. Because of this, be very quiet about anything personal. Keep conversation to fun, lighthearted topics, and do not share anything that you do not want repeated.

Step3 -Be aware about how frenemies act. Sometime they may act like your best friend, and other times, someone who doesn't like you at all. Be aware of your frenemy's actions, but don't fall into their traps. You should not treat a frenemy like a best friend when they treat you like one, because that will encourage frenemy-like behavior.

Step4-Try not to be hurt by things your frenemy says and does. The frenemy has their own motives for why they act the way they do. Do not let your frenemy affect your own self esteem,  because their actions are a reflection of themselves, not a reflection of you. If they say hurtful things, it may be to cover up their own feelings.

Step5-Be aware that just because someone is a frenemy to you, they may not be a frenemy to everyone. Do not automatically assume that this person is betraying others, but if they are, you should probably let the others know so they do not get hurt.

Step6-Do not introduce your frenemies to your real friends. It's important to keep them separate, if possible, so your frenemy does not hurt your friends and does not try to talk to your friends about you.

I found a lot of this to be helpful advice. I also looked at my guidebook and realized the good things about friends is where my heart longs to dwell.

Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity

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Ecclesiastes 4:10
If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!012


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Proverbs 22:11
He who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend.



I am thankful that my best friend always has my best interest at heart and is ALWAYS interceding on my behalf .

I have found a friend in Jesus, He’s everything to me,
He’s the fairest of ten thousand to my soul;
The Lily of the Valley, in Him alone I see
All I need to cleanse and make me fully whole.
In sorrow He’s my comfort, in trouble He’s my stay;
He tells me every care on Him to roll.

So yes, I may have a frenemy or two who comes into my life. It may hurt and cause temporary distress. I will try to choose love for my part- I will definitely have boundaries for this is healthy. I will count it all joy –James1:2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.

Hug your friends today!

Be blessed!


Saturday, April 25, 2009

Need a smile today?

I’ll give you one….


Abby’s first time in a play saucer!


Be blessed!


Thursday, April 16, 2009

Day 4 of Under the Weather

So this Meme has been sick all week and I have not felt like doing anything! I went to the Dr. on Monday and I have Upper respitory infection with a touch of bronchitis that I think was more than a touch.   I have coughed until I need to be wearing Depends undergarments and I have missed seeing my grandbabies …so I guess I’ll just have to see them in pictures…

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I didn’t mention that my two oldest grandgirls were in a little Easter pageant this past weekend and I don’t need some old judges to tell me they are gorgeous. They did make me proud for being themselves and smiling and enjoying the day-no matter if they won or not. Emma said her trophy says queen on it and has angel wings so it is special.

A few more pics from my weekend will probably help me feel better…

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Don’t you hate to be sick and miss work, life and all your family?

Before I sign off of here can I remind you to pray for

Stellan and MckMama~ they have flown to Boston and he will be having surgery soon on his heart.

I sure feel blessed to have 4 healthy grandchildren and I do mean that –I have a heart for parents and grandparents who have little sick darlings.

I also feel blessed to have have both my parents living.

Thank you God for these blessings and I thank you for the last four days to lay and rest. Sometime we need that !

Be blessed!


Monday, April 13, 2009

It’s a wonderful world….

  The last few weeks have been busy. I have done a lot of the usual…Ashleys 028

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I’ve spent a lot of time with the people I love.

I have been to two funerals and the visitation of a dear young man who died too young from cancer. It makes you realize to use the time you’ve been given wisely. Love those you love while you can and make sure they know it.

I  have traveled…

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I went to Savannah and then to the Master’s. I walked alot. I ate alot. I enjoyed time with my husband and our friends. Did I say I ate alot…

Today was Easter and I really loved the day of worship. then family…

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I have three beautiful kids –if I do say so myself. Sometimes I go on and on about the grandkids and leave out my precious three gifts from God who gave me those GRANDchildren.

One thing I have not done is focus on my goal for losing weight. I did lose 11 pounds from Jan to March for the Scale Back Alabama promotion but I have not remained focused.

Today’s motivational tip is…

Knowledge is power, but without action it’s useless. Renew your mind daily through the truth of the Word, then use that wisdom to guide your body and soul.


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I love my Daddy’s hands- they are older now and have age spots,( they are still beautiful to me) but in my life they have fixed things, loved us and have never hurt us. Here Abby is holding on to Poppy’s finger. Sometimes that is how I feel about me and God- I am hanging on to His finger. I always need Him, but I am not taking advantage of the big strong hand that wants to hold me, and help me.Ashleys 159 He wants to fix things for me if I just ask and He wants to love me and never hurt me.

Today is the first day of the rest of my life- I serve a Risen Savior. I am a daughter of the King. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I have been given so much more than I deserve.

My cup runneth over!

I will keep on keeping on and I will win the race.

Be blessed!