As a parent I have often had questions, fears, guilt and frustration. Thankfully, now I feel mostly proud and blessed as a parent. I have learned to let go and let God. But it was not always easy. I would say they are yours God -you love them more than I do please take care of them -then the next glitch would come and I would take them back. We do this with lots of worries and fears we have. I have anyway.
This poem by an unknown author was a help to me and I pass it on...
It's Your Move, Daughter
I gave you life
But I cannot live it for you.
I can teach you things
But I cannot make you learn.
I can give you directions
But I cannot always be there to lead you.
I can allow you freedom
But I cannot account for it.
I can take you to church
But I cannot make you believe.
I can teach you right from wrong
But I cannot always decide for you.
I can buy you beautiful clothes
But I cannot make you lovely inside.
I can offer you advice
But I cannot accept it for you.
I can give you love
But I cannot force it upon you.
I can teach you to be a friend
But I cannot make you one.
I can teach you to share
But I cannot make you unselfish.
I can teach you respect
But I cannot force you to show honor.
I can grieve about your report card
But I cannot doubt your teachers.
I can teach you about sex
But I cannot keep you pure.
I can tell you the facts of life
But I can't build your reputation.
I can tell you about drinking
But I cannot say NO for you.
I can warn you about drugs
But I can't prevent you from using them.
I can tell you about lofty goals
But I can't achieve them for you.
I can let you babysit
But I can't be responsible for your actions.
I can teach you kindness
But I can't force you to be gracious.
I can warn you about sins
But I cannot make your morals.
I can love you as a daughter
But I cannot place you in God's family.
I can pray for you
But I cannot make you walk with God.
I can teach you about Jesus
But I cannot make him your Savior.
I can teach you to obey
But I cannot make Jesus your Lord.
I can tell you how to live
But I cannot give you eternal life.
As parents we will make mistakes, we can try and do what’s right and we still will have problems, because children come with free-will just like we did. If God couldn’t force actions on his first born what makes us think we can.
I know that to make it through children you need a pair of knee pads and just when you think they came out alright it starts all over with your grandbabies.
Be blessed!
